05 April 2011

Ala Kassim!!!

Lately, I have been actively chatting with my faraway friend on MSN massenger. Its really awkward in this stage of life where you will be spending hours online, chatting with your girlfiend. Well...it may not be that awkward to some people, but it is to ME!

Topic of discussion? Married woman in their 30s with kid...what do you expect? We shared stories on marriage, kids, and other GIRL stuffs like what happened to this guy...that girl....yadayadayadayada

The most recent one was about marriage basically. How married women always have problem with the in-laws and husband sometimes. At least I know I'm not the only one. hehehheheheh. After a long story telling and heart-to-heart session, she finally made me look at marriage matters differently. I love the fact that she was not biased though she is my close friend. She gave her most sincere opinion that I need to hear. Though most of her advice was not in my favor, but I really appreciate what she has told me. The most valuable line throughout our chatting session was "Marriage is no longer about us. Its about our child. So, whatever decision you have to take, please consider how is it going to affect your child" . In the end, after digesting what she has told me, I finally made a wise and valiant decision in solving the thing that has been bothering me for almost a month now! I am so much happier and calm ever since. Alhamdulillah....

Lesson learned :
1) You need to share your problems with someone rather than keeping it to yourself.
2) Share your problem with someone impartial . They will lead you to a wise solution. Insyaallah

2 comments:

Maya Marisa said...

Hi Iza,

leaving my kiut miut finger prints here. nice blog u got here. also very provocative thoughts. i like it. nice topics toooo. like the tudung issue down there. my oh my, i'll share my thoughts later in my future entry. cos last 2 weeks, smth took place in the office...heheh nnti i cerita ok.

keep on writing ok dear. oh ya, we ladies, esp lepas kawin, mmg need another shoulder to cry on & to gossip of course.
occasionally i do have a my 'mummylicious' get-together with my married girlfriends. and no hb & kids allowed. it's really worth it! it's a real stress buster. reckon u to try it as well...:P

ok dear, hv a nice day ahead!

iza bakar said...

Thanks Maya. Thanks for the tips to ease my stress. Yes, I should. I think sometimes we just need time for ourselves kan. My problem is the guilt to leave my little ones on weekend is too much. Can't wait for ur "office" story.

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